In the 1960s, giving six-year-old children psycho-stimulant drugs would have appalled society. Now, it’s as regular as taking a child to the park.
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Is it a cost we’re willing to live with?
Parenting has been an industry for nearly 400 years.
Four basic parenting styles have been developed over the last 100 years through the study of psychology.
On the coattails of these four parenting styles came the discovery of child mental health and behavior disorders and the ability to market to desperate and vulnerable parents.
ADHD, $143 billion to $266 billion a year, and the direct annual
costs for treatment are estimated to be $1,574 per person.
Today, more than 1,000,000 children under the age of four have been prescribed psycho-stimulant drugs like Adderall.
ADHD and ODD specifically have risen more than 53% since 2002.
The English verb “to parent” was first used in the 1660s, around the same time that John Walmot famously wrote:
“Before I got married I had six theories about bringing up
children; now I have six children and no theories.”
John Locke, 1693, published the influential “Some Thoughts Concerning Education.”
He emphasized the role of parents in raising “virtuous” children, which for him meant children with strong self-restraint, and no rewards such as candy or toys.
Jean-Jacques Rousseau believed that humans are born innately good and that civilization and socialization “ degenerate” children.
His book “Emile,” 1762, inspired a new form of national education in France.
Throughout history, the fight has always been permissive vs. authoritative, or authoritarian nature vs. compassionate nurture, discipline vs. permissiveness, and science vs. religion.
Fights about when to stop nursing, and whether to give cold or hot baths raged on, with each era having leading themes.
Nearing the 20th century, physicians and doctors began writing parenting books based mainly on guesswork and theory…
- Dr. L. Emmett Holt, 1894, “The Care and feeding of children.”
“Two bowel movements a day, ignore crying.”
- John B. Watson, 1928, “Psychological Care of Infant and Child.”
“Never hug or kiss your child.”
- Dr. Spock, 1946, “Baby and childcare.”
“You know more than you think you do.”
In 1974 The Beaver Times printed Dr. Spock’s admission of blame for poor child behavior in children. Spock laid the blame for the resulting brattiness of America’s children at least in part on the experts.”— the child psychiatrists, psychologists, teachers, social workers and pediatricians like myself. In the 20th-century parents have been persuaded that (these are) the only people who know for sure how children should be managed. This is a cruel deprivation that we professionals have imposed on mothers and fathers.
This is a cruel deprivation that we professionals have imposed on mothers and fathers. Of course, we did it with the best of intentions. We didn’t realize until it was too late how our know-it-all attitude was undermining the self-assurance of parents.”
This new parenting advice industry gathered new momentum during the baby boomlet of the late 1970s. Notably, that’s also when the use of the word “over-parenting” spiked.
Today, Amazon returns 35,814 results for parenting books. A Google search for “parenting advice blog” returns 104,000,000 results.
This leaves YOU the same or worse off than if you had no parenting advice at all.
There is an answer!
Not from theory, not from books and not from guesswork, but from working directly with thousands of special needs kids!
In 1994, Thomas Liotta made a solid decision that he was going to use the opposite of anything negative to teach students at his martial arts school Modoo Hana Tae Kwon Do Academy.
Until now, no one had decided to use only positive and proactive parenting styles focussed on planning and creating. We’ve been too busy taking care of messes.
The simplicity of working together.
Thomas ran his martial art school like a great leader runs a business. He created a positive environment where his students were eager to learn. They were motivated and engaged.
In 1997, in order for his Martial arts school to be fully licensed as a daycare and summer camp, he needed education: child development degrees, both for preschool and for school-aged kids.
Thomas became the first alternative to daycare in the state of Washington.
Over the course of 15 years, Thomas’ school had thousands of children, mostly with special needs like ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder, register at his school. His time was dedicated to empowering his students.
- Choosing goals
- Developing plans to achieve goals
- Focusing on the positive
- Encouraging kids to think and choose by asking questions
- Showing the kids how to make things important to them show up
Just to name a few…
In 2004, Thomas’ Creating Champions for Life program was nominated and inducted into the martial arts hall of fame, for the most creative after-school program.
In 2007, Modoo Hana Tae Kwon Do Academy was bought by the state of Washington and Thomas was forced to close the doors.
In 2011, Thomas met Bonnie Harrison. Bonnie was a personal development coach and inspirational speaker. She was also a single mother raising four kids diagnosed with ADHD, and the youngest with ADHD and ODD (oppositional defiant disorder.
Bonnie found success on a personal and professional front, helping hundreds of people over the course of 20 years. But, her kids were not doing well.
With little progress gained by studying the likes of Supernanny, Barbara Colorosso, Love and Logic, Danny Silk, Total Transformation, Magic 123, and The Explosive Child, she turned to Thomas who got undeniable results when speaking to her children.
- More engaged
- Following expectations
- Going the extra mile
- Laughing and getting along
What does this mean? This means that you can help your ADHD or oppositional defiant disorder child WITHOUT all the deadly side-effects of Adderall!
Creating Champions For Life was born with a goal to get this knowledge out to any parent/caregiver in the world — who is open enough to listen.
What benefits can you share about empowering kids with authentic motivation rather than psycho-stimulant drugs? Would love to hear from you in the comments below!
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